Mother of the Bride vs. Mother of the Groom: The Complete Style Guide
Two of the most important women at any wedding deserve to look extraordinary. But questions around colour coordination, formality, and who chooses first can make dressing for this role surprisingly tricky. Here's your complete guide.
Who Chooses First?
Traditionally, the mother of the bride chooses her outfit first. The mother of the groom then selects a look that complements — without matching or clashing. The golden rule: communicate early. Share colour palettes and formality levels before anyone shops.
Should They Match?
No — but they should coordinate. Options that work beautifully:
- Complementary colours – e.g., dusty rose and champagne
- Same colour family, different shades – e.g., both in navy, different tones
- Neutral + accent – one in taupe or grey, the other in a soft accent colour
- Same silhouette, different colour – matching dress lengths in contrasting hues
Both should align on dress length and formality so neither appears over or underdressed relative to the other.
What to Avoid
- ❌ White, ivory, or cream — always reserved for the bride
- ❌ The same colour as the bridesmaids
- ❌ Clashing with each other — coordinate in advance
- ❌ Outshining the bride — beautiful yes, more dramatic than the bride, no
- ❌ Ignoring the dress code — both mothers should match the event's formality
Best Silhouettes
Both mothers will be on their feet all day. Comfort matters as much as elegance:
- A-line gown – Flattering on all body types, easy to move in
- Sheath or column dress – Sleek and modern in luxury fabrics
- Wrap dress – Universally flattering, comfortable for long wear
- Palazzo trousers + elegant top – A sophisticated non-dress alternative
- Tailored jumpsuit – Modern and fashion-forward
Avoid anything too fitted or restrictive — ceremony to last dance is a long day.
Fabric & Colour by Wedding Type
- Black-tie – Silk, satin, lace, or velvet. Floor-length. Jewel tones, navy, champagne, or soft metallics.
- Semi-formal – Chiffon or crepe in knee-to-midi length. Dusty rose, sage, mauve, or warm neutrals.
- Garden/outdoor – Lightweight chiffon or georgette. Soft pastels. Block heels over stilettos.
- Beach/destination – Breezy maxi or resort-style gown. Breathable fabrics. Flat sandals or low heels.
Accessories
- Jewellery – Classic pearl, diamond, or gemstone pieces proportional to your neckline
- Bag – Small clutch in a complementary colour
- Wrap or jacket – Essential for church ceremonies or cool evening venues
- Shoes – Block heels, kitten heels, or elegant flats for all-day comfort
- Corsage – If provided by the couple, factor it into your neckline choice
Pre-Wedding Style Checklist
- ✅ Confirmed dress code and formality level
- ✅ Coordinated colour choice with the other mother
- ✅ Avoided white, ivory, cream, and bridesmaids' colours
- ✅ Chosen a comfortable silhouette for a full day of wear
- ✅ Selected venue-appropriate footwear
- ✅ Final fitting at least two weeks before the wedding
Shop Mother of the Wedding Dresses
At My World of Dresses, we carry an elegant selection of occasion gowns perfectly suited for mothers of the bride and groom — across silhouettes, colours, and formality levels. Find a look as memorable as the day itself.